Jealousy ... reveals so obviously our dark side ....… written by the romanian writter Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
Jealousy ... reveals so obviously our dark side ....… written by the romanian writter Adrian Gabriel Dumitru
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I was with Will and Betty.
She looked at him, seeing ... that again he didn't liked something ... saying ... "I had enough of your pathological jealousy ..."
I could not understand a thing, but realised they will immediately have another fight.
Then ... i look on the internet what the term means ... and read load ...
"Pathological jealousy, also known as morbid jealousy, Othello syndrome, or delusional jealousy, is a psychological disorder in which a person is preoccupied with the thought that their spouse or romantic partner is being unfaithful without having any real or legitimate proof, along with socially unacceptable or abnormal behaviour related to these thoughts.The most common cited forms of psychopathology in morbid jealousy are delusions and obsessions. It is considered a subtype of delusional disorder."
... but silence.
Will ... was not saying a word.
Betty ... either.
So .... I continue ... asking .... "Why the hell do you
believe that he is suffering of pathological jealousy?!"
Angry ... she replies ... "Because ... that man from the corner of the coffee shop... looked at me for 10 seconds ... and look how Will changed his face."
But ... it was weird.
I knew Will by a long time.
He was jealous.
... but in normal parameters.
In fact ... like any other human ... but somehow Betty was right.
This time ... i saw craziness into his eyes.
It was all real.
But ... being together at the coffee shop ... and trying to avoid have a pathetic meeting ... I continue saying ... "Guys .... do you really know what jealousy means?!
What is actually ... its psychological meaning?!
Well ... I believe... firstly.... is the fear of losing the loved person.
So ..."
But ... still they didn't said ... a word.
Most certainly ... it was the number 837 episode like that.
Our meeting at the coffee shop was ruined ... so i've excused myself ... and left.
On the way back to my home ... meditating ... i've wondered how the hell can have such a big influence on their relationship .... the simple fact that a man simply looked at her?!
Jealousy is indeed bad.
A negative emotion.
It will never bring anything good.
... but it exists.
Jealousy is present ... in many, many relationships ... all over the world.
Today ... i find it .... normal.
Cause ... jealousy is a fear.
And more that person loves the partner ... more obviously the jealousy is.
I try to not associate jealousy with our dark side.
But ... analysing Will and Betty ... i realise that jealousy is having a tremendous impact on the relationship.
And ... still ... i don't understand who is really responsible for that?!
Will?!
Or Betty?!
Well... i don't want to be on the side of Will ... only because he is a man ... but i know him by a long time ... and never saw him having such ridiculous reactions.
Yes.
It's true.
On the other hand... they had indeed a love story together.
I saw ... passion in his eyes.
Also ... obsession.
And ... this dark side of him ... revealed ... as a pathological jealousy.... was in fact the obvious expression of his love.
Which .... looked like a paradox.
So ... there is a connection between the positive and the negative side of the human being.
One ... revealing the other.
In fact ... as an absolute confirmation.
Probably ... that was the situation between Will and Betty.
One day ... speaking about the subject ... somehow excusing himself for the incident from the coffee shop ... he even told me ... "My pathological jealousy ... is an abstract confirmation of my love to her.
I've never experienced this before and i am totally convinced that all is the reflection of my strong feelings and emotions ... which i am carrying into my soul ..."
So ... i can conclude ... like always ... that all is abstract in life.
Will loved Betty ... a lot.
Even if ... all looked indeed like morbid jealousy ... experienced in continuous form ...
Psychologically ... i start to understand him.
But ... spiritually .... I would dare to ask him ... "Why do you stay in such a relationship ... which is non stop activating your dark side?!"
... and her ... "Why do you really want to see him losing his minds because of you.
Can't you simply ... believe in his love?!"
Well ... like any other couples they are extremely difficult to be understood.
And ... still many are like them.
Activating ... the dark side .... of one of the partners ... just for the fun of having the absolute confirmation of love.
Saying and hearing "I love you!" ... is not enough .
Unfortunately.
And more ... i analyse ... more i understand it was all related to Betty's dark side.
... just to have the confirmations .... her dark side ... was activating his dark side.
Seeing his fears ... she was feeling safe.
Confident.
Even if ... it all looked like .... an ugly stupid pathetic episode ... experienced ... on and on and on.
You see ... unconsciously ... she needed to see his morbid jealousy... as delusions ... and obsessions.
Fears ... activating other fears.
To us ... and to the close people to us.
I can only conclude ... to be fair enough ... that i blame both of them for this pathetic behaviour.
And ... wish them to have the wisdom to stop ... entering into such psychological games.
Cause ... they will just ruin themselves ....
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